041:The fatherlike Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche

Abstract:

We are gratified to have a mundane father who takes care of us in this life. We are further more gratified to have a dharmadhatu father who constantly takes care of all the sentient beings and my mundane father.

I’m Kao, San-Peng in the team 4. I took refuge in Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche in 2003. My father was Kao, Jin-Ren in the team 9. Since 3 years ago, my father had been attending teachings such as Chod pujas, regular Sunday pujas, and the annual grand pujas conducted by Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche. In the beginning of this year (2008), he took refuge in Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche.

Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche reminded my father that his stomach was not good enough about 3 years ago when all my family asked Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche for my wedding affairs, and Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche gave blessings to him at that time. From then on, Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche more than once told my father should start to learn Buddhism. Maybe my father had his own thinking, so he could not make decision to take refuge.

My father underwent the regular check up in recent thirty years at NTUH and all the results were within normal limit. Maybe the karmic power appeared, we all thought my father’s uncomfortableness were caused by gastric inflation until his body weight loss to forty more kilograms. We felt it’s surprisingly strange, so we sent my father to NTUH for further examinations in September last year. The terminal stage of stomach cancer with multiple metastasis was told and the surgery was done afterwards. During the operation father suffered a lot in deed. But it was because of attending Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche’s puja, listening to Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche’s orthodox Buddha-Dharma teaching and sheltering under Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche、Buddhas and Budhisattvas, father recovered very smoothly and took much lesser pain than any other patients who had the same disease as my father’s. During that time, we continuously requested Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche to give my father blessing. Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche had ever asked us why my father did not come in person, and whether all of his sons came altogether. Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche enlightened us that helping my father had been better than giving blessings to him. It’s not allowed for us to request Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche with a mind of give and take.

We knew that only Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche, Buddhas and Bodhisattvas could help my father during hopitalization. But our heart was too flurried to know how to help my father accumulate such causes and conditions and how to help my father have firm faith in relying on Buddha- Dharma. Later on, the team leader reminded us that making offering is one of the fastest way to accumulate virtues, which was enlightened by Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche. On that instance we decided to make offering on behalf of my father, and all things changed immediately as the thought of making offering arouse in our mind. My father’s pleural effusion which was 100 ml need to be drawn out everyday disappeared . In addition, all our family’s obstacles were dispelled and we were looking forwards to prostrating to Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche. In a certain Saturday’s afternoon, we all went to prostrate to Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche and Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche mercifully and compassionately gave blessings to my father. Following that, my parents unexpectedly requested to take refuge in Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche. That issue (how to let my parents be close to Buddha Dharma) we cared about for many years just changed like this way. It’s unbelievable that Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche’s enlightenment regarding reverence to the elders, illness, gratitude and learning Buddhism to a believer who was standing in front of us sounded like directly talked to us. Our questions in mind were totally answered right away. Perhaps it is one of the advantages of being close to Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche. In the next day puja, we heard a dharma brother’s story sharing about that his conditions changed right after the thought of making offering arising in his mind, before he made the offering. The auspiciousness of Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche’s enlightenment was proved again.

Before the refuge ceremony, father had asked for leave of absence from hospital for attending pujas. We were grateful that my father sought refuge as he wished in Jan. of this year (2008). From father was illness till refuge, we could feel that he had not yet given up concerning his body, life, and family and could not composedly face the issues of birth and death. What we could do was merely to remind him contemplating Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche constantly.

In May of this year (2008), my parents and we enrolled in attending the inauguration ceremony of new center in Kyoto, Japan. After enrollment, Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche said that my father’s heart was incorrect and just let him stay in Taiwan to rest. At that time, my mom felt in a dilemma since she wanted to stay with my father and look after him. Father advised her to go ahead since she already enrolled. He also mentioned that he could take care of himself during her travel that just took a couple of days. Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche’s arrangement let my father and mother have opportunity to think over their own life by themselves , and thus their attachment could be reduced. All of these are various methods by Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche to take care of his disciples.

From the time of discharging from hospital to May, father had been asked by the doctors three times to receive chemotherapy. My parents and my elder brother went to see Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche again for this issue and made the offering with the expense that initially prepared for traveling in Japan.

Father told Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche that NTUH doctor said he had only 3-4 month to survive. “I believe in Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche, Buddhas and Bodhisattvas and decided not to receive chemotherapy. I hoped I could still follow Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche to learn and cultivate Buddha-Dharma. Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche asked “Who said that there were only 3-4 month to survive?” “The doctor of NTUH” replied by father. Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche enlightened “Only 3-4 month? You still could walk to see me. Just look at the others, could they be so well? Congratulations that you would go to enjoy your life in comfort and happiness earlier than me. I could not do so now. I still need to take the hardship. Does Buddha dharma let you feel you have something to rely on in mind?” “Yes” answered by father. Then Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche promised that “you could be granted Phowa by me and you should practice and ask dharma protector Achi for it everyday.” How were we moved and grateful in that moment was so hard to describe in words. Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche is so merciful and compassionate. He painstakingly helps all the sentient beings, and looks after his disciples in this way.

Dharma brothers said father looked pretty well when he attended the puja. Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche transmitted the Avalokitesvara practice to my father and he endeavored to complete one million times Mani mantra recitation before he passed away.

Although my father’s body ached still, he however did not have that much psychological and physical suffering and sorrow like those cancer patients who were in terminal stage. He did not have ascites, pleural effusion, leg edema, wail and claudication at all. It was absolutely due to Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche’s auspicious blessings.

I went with my father to prostrate to Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche in Aug. 2008. Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche asked my father if he had any question. Father sobbed for a while and said: “I didn’t dare to speak it out.” Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche enlightened him that he had already gained  and did not need to make any further request. I thought father still needed to pay off his karmic debts before he could go to the pure land to enjoy the good life there. We saw my father was changing day by day. He started being able to face his illness and his karmic debtors. He also endured the pain but never complained it, and never showed us his sorrow. Later on, my parents went to prostrate to Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche again and Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche told my father to feel relieved. Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche would continuously take care of him in his life.

In the following pujas, I really felt that Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche enlightened us just focused on the doubt in our mind. I have to repent myself that I did not put Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche’s teachings into our life. Not until this kind of incident happened on my father did I begin to realize life is impermanent.

Afterwards, my father was hospitalized again for further observation due to biliary tract obstruction with severe jaundice. Moreover, father had become general malacia, cachexia and yellowed complexion only within one to two days.

On Aug. 20th, my father had been almost exhausted but still personally insist on kneeing down and prostrating to Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche. After my father expressed his repentance and gratitude, he besought Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche for Phowa practice and peace. Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche said “Ok. I promised you to conduct Phowa for you, but you still need to pray to dharma protector Achi everyday and have to abandon everything. ” Also, Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche gave blessing to father by reciting mantras and puffing. After the Chod puja on Aug. 22nd, without excretion and any medical treatment, his firm and distended abdomen returned to be normal. Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche showed us a marvelous manifestation of Buddha- Dharma again.

On Aug. 23rd, we found my father started to show the phenomena of dieing as enlightened by Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche. We were so grateful for Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche’s blessing that my father might remain conscious clear to know Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche’s and his own Dharma names, although my father looked very weak and closed his eyes all the time. Besides, he insisted to attend each puja conducted by Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche and he hoped that all my family had the causes and conditions to take refuge in Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche and listen to orthodox dharma.

On Aug. 26th and 27th, father was getting weaker and his words response was getting fewer. He still held the GuanYin jadeite pendant worn on him, or spoke the Dharma name of Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche at times. When we showed the picture of Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche on TVBS Weekly Magazine to father, he grasped the picture and put it on his forehead. Father passed away at 6:15 am, Aug.27, with hands on the chest and the belly. He looked very peaceful as if he was sleeping. His yellowed complexion of face and eyeballs caused by severe jaundice were gone after perfect completion of Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche’s Phowa Dharma conducting and then they looked as usual. After father passed away, we calmly recited Buddha name as Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche instructed.

When it was past 9/AM, one Dharma brother told me to first touch the crown of my father’s head. We found the temperature was obviously different from that of forehead and there was a small dimple over there. At that time we had not yet got the phone call regarding Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche’s Dharma conducting. We were informed by the phone call again at 10:07/AM that Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche had completed Phowa Dharma and we could see my father’s body. We touched a very unusual skull showed an apparent band form depression and the temperature of the crown of head and forehead were still clearly different. When we moved father to an iron stretcher in the funeral parlor, father’s arms were very soft and flexible.

In the afternoon, we went to fell gratitude to Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche and realized that the auspicious manifestation of Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche and Buddha Dharma was entirely unimaginable for us.

Actually we were informed that my father would die in the Friday night’s Chod puja, but he did not pass away at that time because he was attached by us and still looking forward to listening to Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche’s enlightenment. We also realized that, as a matter of fact, the great power of Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche’s blessing had kept protecting father until the last minute, so the temperature of crown of my father’s head was already different when passing away, yet before granted Phowa. In this life, we are gratified to have a mundane father who takes care of us and even more gratified to have a dharmadhatu father who constantly takes care of all the sentient beings and my mundane father. Besides, I shall deeply repent of having Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche so toilsome for helping my father.

Under the blessings of Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche, dharma protector Achi, lineage gurus and Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, we saw so many auspicious things such as no ascites, no pleural effusion and no legs edema happened in a terminal stage cancer patient like my father. Besides, the analgesic dosage he took was only 1/30 of other cancer patients. It’s unbelievable to the doctors. We saw our father who was a really traditional and stubborn man turned out to be a disciple with firm faith. Because of father’s illness, we more realized the sorrow in life and the auspiciousness of Buddha-Dharma. Additionally, we started to know the importance of repentance, reverence, faith and making offering. It is so hard to describe in words how merciful and compassionate Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche is and what Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche’s selfless contribution made to the sentient beings. Because of father’s disease, we engendered very deep faith in Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche and Buddha-Dharma, and engendered the supra-mundane mind.

Thank for Dharma brother Shu Jun, everything were changed from her many important advices at the crucial moment. Thank for Dharma brother Li Zhen and Doctor Xie, who gave medical assistance to father. Thank for Dharma brother Guan Yun, who encouraged father having the chance to beseech Phowa Dharma personally. Thanks for all Dharma brothers who had ever helped father. My father always closed his eyes and tried to find the GuanYin jadeite pendant on his neck. Once he held, his face appeared peacefully. Definitely, all behind these were bestowed by Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche’s painstaking operation (no matter Glorious Jewel Group business or Buddha-Dharma activities). Now we realize why Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche taught us to widely disseminate guru’s merits, why we need to dine together with Dharma brothers regularly, and why we have to care Dharma family dependants. Those are all auspicious teachings manifested by Ronpoche in order to help the heavy karmic sentient beings of decay period of Dharma and put the teachings into our life. From those teachings, we obtained a lot of help. For example, what the most expectation we had in the funeral ceremony was appearance of the vests of Glorious Jewel Buddhist Center. Now we are so grateful to H.E. Rinchen Dorjee Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche for painstakingly helping sentient beings and my father and patiently giving us teachings and enlightenment. We sincerely would like to fell immense gratitude to the Most Venerable Rinchen Dorjee Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche again.

By Kao, San-Peng, disciple of Glorious Jewel Buddhist Center

Note: Photo of the cremated skull of the late Dharma brother Kao, Jin-Ren (viewed from inner side of skull). There was a round, well defined and through penetration hole (as indicated by the red arrow) on the crown of the skull which could not be interpreted by medical science. It was indeed the auspicious sign of the perfect completion of the Phowa Dharma conducted by Rinchen Dorjee Rinpoche and the sign of rebirth in the Pure Land.

Updated on February 9, 2009